Friends come and go

There are friends that last forever. I have two such friends. I met one in grade school and the other one in high school. Mary soon became my best friend. I neglected my other friends so we could spend time together. I’m sure she did the same. We went to the park, we went shopping, I spent a lot of time at her house. We swooned over the Osmond brothers. Knew all the lyrics to every song. Oh what good times we had! Then one day, it all stopped. I can’t remember if something happened or we just fell out of childhood friendship. I called her a few years ago and it was like we’d never lost touch. Of course, things happened to both of us. She is a psychologist now, she married and divorced and was living in the same city. I married, moved, had two kids, divorced, changed careers three times, moved again and remarried. Well let’s just say I was never the stable one in our relationship.

John, I met in high school. He was a football player. I was considered one of the boys and if anyone said differently, John would take care of it. There was an attraction once but neither one of us did anything about it. I always thought that our friendship meant more to us than a love story that may turn sour. We are still friends. He married, had two kids as well. Funny thing, his wife never really took to me, don’t know why… We both had to grow up, no more playing football together in the school corridors. But we were always close. No matter what happened to us or what separated us. We don’t speak often, in fact almost never anymore. And I can’t always see him when I’m in town. But I know that it doesn’t matter. We see each other when we can.

We’re all grown now. Maybe not matured, but grown. Our parents are either gone or older. We worry about them, we worry about each other. But always we love each other.

I’ve had friends come and go. Really good friends. Sometimes, you have to make a decision on friendships. Some are heavy to carry, sucking all the life and energy out of you. I’ve had friends like that too. It hurts when you have to make the choice to lose those friendships, but when you cringe when they call, or when you feel like it’s a burden to spend time and money on a meal together, maybe it’s time to let go. We should cherish the relationships that make us happy. Life really is too short.

As we grow older, we lose some friends anyway, and sometimes we may even reconnect with other old friends, like I did with Mary. I can’t dwell on the friends I lost. I must cherish the ones I have.

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