Cheap Shots

It's important to have patience with other people. And understand that their perspective is their perspective and there is nothing you can do to change it. When someone is frustrated with you and doesn't know how to tell you directly they may indirectly take a cheap shot at you.

The definition by thefreedictionary.com :

Noun

1.

cheap shot - an unnecessarily aggressive and unfair remark directed at a defenseless person

It is also seen in sports to be an unsportsmanlike action or series of words.

I may be a cheap person when I have no money. I may act not in accordance with others expectations of me. I may misunderstand my role in someone's life. But I don't take cheap shots at people. The person my try to disguise the cheap shot by using a monotonous voice. Or they may print the words for all to see including yourself, which is probably aimed at getting a response. But will get them no where.

The cheap shot in my opinion cannot be used for any other purposes other than to evoke negative emotions in the person it is aimed at. Name calling is by far the most popular cheap shot a person can use against you. Quick, short, words with a negative undertone.

How to Handle a Cheap Shot
1.) Understand that you are not the cheap shot.
2.) Demand an apology or explanation.
3.) Realize that this person does not share your perspective on life.
4.) Talk with a friend to get an outsiders opinion.
5.) Avoid the topic of discussion with that person until he/she can express themselves without using cheap shots. ( If they are using the same one repeatedly.)
6.) Disassociate yourself with the person who continues to be unaccepting of you as you are.
7.) Forgive the other person.
8.) Realize what an unbecoming trait this is and try to avoid it yourself.

Most Popular Arenas For Cheap Shots

1.) Political campaign commercials
2.) In the courtroom
3.) Tabloids
4.) Relationships gone bad
5.) lighthearted settings with friends
6.) Sports
7.) Sermons

Highly Unlikely to Find Cheap Shots In These Areas
1.) Loving relationships
2.) Trusting relationships
3.) mutually respectful relationships
4.) Places of Worship


Once you have recognized the cheap shot, do your best to overcome it with charisma and strength. You will come out respecting yourself more, and clearly communicating to the other person that you are not going to play this game. If however, you do want to play the game here on some pointers on how to be good at it.

Find the Person's Weak Spot
----------In the course of your relationship with this person, where there any subjects that seemed to excite them in a negative way? If so play up on these, and you will be sure to strike a cord with them.
-----------If you can't find the weak spot, use some general derogatory terms and see which one they respond to.
-----------If they do not have a weak spot, create one. This is easily done by attacking their personal appearance, family, something they cannot change, etc.

The Right Moment
-----------When you are feeling like their are no other options for expressing yourself.
-----------When you see the person has let their gaurd down.
-----------When you are in the heat of an argument.
-----------When other people are listening.


Conclusion
No matter what which course you take try to be good at what you do. For this will only magnify your true character, and bring you closer to what you want. Thank you for listening and once again good luck out there!!

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